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I am a failure in every aspect of life. In relationships, careers, business everything. Need advice.
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I am 35 years old man. Single. A Broken man. And Weak from the inside. I do not have a strong mentality at all. Not have any stable job. Does not know the meaning of a good career.
Filling suffocated and depressed. The breakup happened almost 4 years ago but still, I cry. A freelancer by profession. When I am not busy the past memories haunt me.
I don't have any friends. My friends are busy with their life. I don't want to disturb them. Thank you for listening to my story.
Update After 3 Years: Please read -> https://www.reddit.com/r/Stoicism/comments/1kpck6c/remember_my_last_post_im_okay_now_a_story_of/
Thank you.
Top Comment: Sounds like a lot of what motivates you to consider yourself a failure, is things that you think you ought to have by now. But there is no such thing in life. Your path is your path. No point comparing it to others except very briefly, as points of reference. Beyond that, comparing only makes you miserable and it's unhelpful because you never know the millions of hidden factors that influence other people's lives. Instead of being broken, break your life down and rebuild it again with intent. Being a freelancer can give you lots of freedom. Freedom to pursue hobbies where you can meet others with similar interests. Being alone means you only answer to yourself: no spouse or children to maintain who are utterly dependent on you. Change your perspective about your situation and you may come to see it as a blessing instead of a curse. Thing is, only you can do this. Only you can choose to change your perspective. Life won't impose a new interpretation on you because that would violate your free will to interpret anything any way you wish.
I Fail or I Am Failed? | WordReference Forums
Main Post: I Fail or I Am Failed? | WordReference Forums
git patch - Why does git apply and am fail? - Stack Overflow
Main Post: git patch - Why does git apply and am fail? - Stack Overflow
AM fail after pod restart, with log error agent attributes IdRepoException
Main Post: I have a problem when restart am or ds pods, like delete those pods or run a kubectl rollout restart, after new pods running, I can’t login platform, am log shows "AgentsRepo.getAttributes(): Unable to read/get agent attributes IdRepoException: Identity ou=resource-server,ou=default,ou=OrganizationC…
Top Comment: I have a problem when restart am or ds pods, like delete those pods or run a kubectl rollout restart, after new pods running, I can’t login platform, am log shows "AgentsRepo.getAttributes(): Unable to read/get agent attributes IdRepoException: Identity ou=resource-server,ou=default,ou=O...
Am I a failure / am I going to fail in life?
Main Post: Am I a failure / am I going to fail in life?
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As a shy person, who had few friends, no gf, social anxiety, and no job prospects in university: it gets better.
The thing that clicked for me was the realisation that confidence and social skills are not some magical thing that some people have and I was missing, it's a skill that is learned by practice. I had to put myself in those awkward and uncomfortable situations I was avoiding, and after doing it enough times it became less awkward, because i knew what to expect and how to handle those situations.
If you can just about buy groceries, then you should be proud of the fact that you do it despite the anxiety. Take baby steps out of your comfort zone whenever you can: buy something from the deli counter, go to that small store you avoid because the clerk is very chatty, just anything that makes you interact with people. If you're in university, look for clubs to join! There are video game clubs, board game clubs, sports clubs, find one you're interested in and you'll find like-minded people and eventually be glad that you did.
Trust me, I've been through this, in the same position, and you can do this. I believe in you!
Ima fail / Imma fail / I'ma fail / I'm a fail /I'm a-fail [I'm going to fail] | WordReference Forums
Main Post: Ima fail / Imma fail / I'ma fail / I'm a fail /I'm a-fail [I'm going to fail] | WordReference Forums
If I fail a pink slip inspection, am I able to take it to another mechanic or am I stuck with this one?
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The mechanic that failed the test picked some very different things up on a rego inspection I’ve never seen or heard about. They wanted 700$, (500$ of it in Labour) in work completed with my car being worth $2000 max. Am I allowed to go for a second opinion or am I stuck with this guy and have to follow through with all the work he’s stated.
EDIT** For anyone interested, when I went for a second opinion the second shop passed it. Thanks for all the comments and advice.
Top Comment: 100% go for a second opinion. You’ll find somebody willing to just give it to you I’m sure. Out of curiosity, what they fail you for?
evdev fail -- what am I missing?
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I followed a few different posts to try to get evdev passthrough of my mouse and keyboard to work, but it just refuses to. What am I missing??
(Sorry for the weird formatting, I could not get code blocks to respect spacing/newlines)
kernel:
Linux boxen 4.15.0-29-generic #31~16.04.1-Ubuntu SMP x86_64 GNU/Linux`
packages:
qemu 1:2.6.2+dfsg
libvirt 2.2.0-0~16.04~ppa
virt-manager 1:1.3.2-3ubuntu2
devices:
lrwxrwxrwx 1 root root 9 Jul 28 17:14 usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse -> ../event7
lrwxrwxrwx 1 root root 9 Jul 28 17:14 usb-ORTEK_ORTEK_Combo_Keyboard_V1.5-event-kbd -> ../event3
...
crw-rw---- 1 root input 13, 67 Jul 28 17:14 event3
crw-rw---- 1 root input 13, 71 Jul 28 17:14 event7
qemu.conf:
user = "crash369"
cgroup_device_acl = [
"/dev/null", "/dev/full", "/dev/zero",
"/dev/random", "/dev/urandom",
"/dev/ptmx", "/dev/kvm", "/dev/kqemu",
"/dev/rtc","/dev/hpet", "/dev/vfio/vfio",
"/dev/input/by-id/usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse",
"/dev/input/by-id/usb-ORTEK_ORTEK_Combo_Keyboard_V1.5-event-kbd"
]
(user "crash369" does belong to "input" group)
win10.xml:
<domain type='kvm' xmlns:qemu='http://libvirt.org/schemas/domain/qemu/1.0'>
...
<qemu:commandline>
<qemu:arg value='-object'/>
<qemu:arg value='input-linux,id=mouse,evdev=/dev/input/by-id/usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse'/>
<qemu:arg value='-object'/>
<qemu:arg value='input-linux,id=kbd,evdev=/dev/input/by-id/usb-ORTEK_ORTEK_Combo_Keyboard_V1.5-event-kbd,grab_all=on,repeat=on'/>
</qemu:commandline>
</domain>
These are the errors I am getting:
error: Failed to start domain win10
error: internal error: process exited while connecting to monitor: 2018-07-30T19:54:54.793813Z qemu-system-x86_64: -object input-linux,id=mouse,evdev=/dev/input/by-id/usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse: Could not open '/dev/input/by-id/usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse': Permission denied
... And if I comment out the 'cgroup_device_acl' block, they change to this:
error: Failed to start domain win10 error: internal error: process exited while connecting to monitor: 2018-07-30T19:56:42.330330Z qemu-system-x86_64: -object input-linux,id=mouse,evdev=/dev/input/by-id/usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse: Could not open '/dev/input/by-id/usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse': Operation not permitted
Top Comment: Can you simply "cat /dev/input/by-id/usb-Logitech_USB_RECEIVER-event-mouse" and see random stuff show up when you move the mouse around?
I am convinced that Overwatch 2 was set up to fail
Main Post: I am convinced that Overwatch 2 was set up to fail
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Slight correction, you don't have to buy the battlepass to get new characters, they're just absurdly far along the free pass at level 55. If they're not going to disconnect them from the battlepass, they at least need to drop that down to like 30 tops.
Why am I such a failure? Please help me turn my life around.
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My first post here on reddit. I am 25, male, a virgin without friends, broke and have been unemployed for nearly 2 years now. After college I worked 70 hrs / week for a year, got burned out, couldn't hack it anymore and was finally fired. My savings are gone, I've moved back in with my parents, I can't find work for the life of me, my friends have left me, I have never had a girlfriend. I hate myself for being such a failure and don't know what to do anymore.
Top Comment: Fuck bro that's depressing. Here's what you do. Remember that the entire universe started as nothing. Over the course of billions of years, we went from nothing to hydrogen. Then all that hydrogen collapsed through gravity and created the first stars. Those stars started making helium, and eventually, essentially every other atom in existence. Of all those atoms some of them were heavy and solid--rocks. Those rocks became planets. On one of those planets, not only was it a lump of rock, but a lump of rock that happened to have been near enough to other exploding stars to get the right mix of elements to create the starting of complex molecules and eventually DNA. Eventually all that shit created the first cells. Those cells grew ever complex and through natural selection and evolution created all the animals, plants, and fungi on the planet. A few billion years, one of those animals was a human. A hundred thousand years billions of people were born and died. Empires grew and fell. Populations multiplied, spread out, transformed and died. People learned, grew, understood, loved, hated, killed and most importantly procreated. Zoom in directly on your family line. Somewhere down the line a king made a decision, a person moved and met the love of the their life. Throughout their entire life, they made countless decisions bringing them who knows where through life, the same thing happened to their children, their children's children, their children's children's children, your grandparents and your parents. Think about the innummerable decisions, the immeasurable odds, the infinite, awe-inspiring possibilities from the first hydrogen stars, to the last water-dwelling amphibian ancestor, to your mother meeting your father that lead to that one fateful moment, when your sperm totally won an epic race. Leading to your life. You are not a failure. You are the most sublime of successes. But now, like all those before you, you are the not only the product of, but the creator of decisions. You have to think, plan and act. You say you couldn't hack it in what you went to college for? Fuck what you went to college for. Think of something you even half like and chase it with abandon. Go back to school. Take up a trade. Apply at McDonalds. I don't care. Try it. You're savings are gone? If you have $1 and no credit cards, or hell not even that--if you have parents that love you (or at least house you) food to eat, and no impending threat of marauding hordes, or death from an old world dread disease or animal that wants to eat you, you're richer than almost everyone in the entire history of humanity, and pretty much everything ever that has lived on the planet. You are the 0.000001 per cent. You've never had a girlfriend? Who cares. Work on yourself. Most people are fucked anyway. Go to gym, get stronger. Run, get faster. Study math get smarter. Take up MMA kick ass. Learn to draw, learn to cook. Your friends left you, they're shitty friends and probably shitty people. Find things you love doing and talk to the people also doing them. You're simply not allowed to hate yourself for being a failure. Because you are not a failure. You simply FAILED. At whatever it was you did. So you either try again or drop it altogether. Imagine if a 6 year old tried riding a bike once, fell and never tried again. That'd be incredibly shitty and as a parent you'd be like "dude try again, or at least try this skateboard." I'm rambling, but I'd like for you to contemplate how awesome you could potentially be, at anything, and then contemplate that the only thing separating you from that is thinking about it, planning it out and acting on it. Cheers
I do not belong, I am a failure.
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Every day it becomes clear a little more that I do not belong here.I am a loser. In a week i'm turning 30, and life sucks and doesn't look like it gets better. 30 years and I failed everything. Every college I got in I failed. After 3 different colleges I had quite a bit of debt. I had to get a job, after applying for jobs for over 8 months I finally found a job. I now clean toilets trying to get rid of the debt. I keep trying out for different jobs, but never get a different job. Been trying for 3 years now. But theres more to life than school and work people say. Well every girl I ever approached rejected me, some even laughed at me.... guess I did the wrong thing... being socially awkward and asperger n stuff. So at 30 I am a kissless virgin, never even held a girls hand. So I guess romance isn't an option either.
So to sum it up; No job future, no romantic future. The only reason I don't suicide is because I don't want to dissapoint my parents even further.... But it's getting insanely hard, thinking about death is the first thing I do when I wake up and the last thing before I fall asleep.
Wish I could end it without hurting my parents.
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So, you have a job though? My uncle has been a janitor for 20 years after leaving the insurance industry. He has a degree, and he hates cleaning, but he loves it more than he loved being a desk jockey. I mean, it sounds rough, but you serve an extremely valuable job. I personally love our sanitary technicians...they are incredible and put up with a lot of crap (no pun intended). People who look down on others are pricks.
You have a future. What do you love?
As for the virgin thing, who cares? Honestly, I know you want love and you will get there, someone will love you. But, like the pressure is silly. Just do you. Do you date online? Do you do anything socially for fun?
Am I a failure?
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PSA I’ve been drinking I’m 26M highly intelligent but dropped out of college because it was too much and was dealing with an abusive relationship at the time. I now work at a job making 22 an hour but I know I can do more however I got injured so I now have chronic pain in my neck and shoulder with every doctor not knowing what’s up so now I don’t even go to appointments. I want to work overtime to make more money my dream is to raise a child but most of the time I can’t because my off days I like to relax because my pain is so bad. My brain tells me I’m a failure everyone else is out making money and I’m sitting here doing nothing. I play a ton of videogames and I constantly feel like I’m someone who never grew up. I’m having an incredibly hard time right now and idk what my life has in store anymore. I want to go back to school but I’m so afraid due to failing out when I was younger. I would only be taking 6 week courses one at a time. But still I’m scared. My question is am I a failure and what should I do to get out of this (I’m not sure my chronic pain will ever end).
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I'm almost 39M, there hasn't been a single day where I felt like I've grown up. It's just more responsibilities, more money, more bills. I wouldn't even say that I have less time since now I work 4x10 days, so I have 3 day weekends.
$22/hr is good, but it's not the sky nor the limit. Highly intelligent but college is too much? I thought I was intelligent, didn't even have to take College Algebra (just did tests to get credit). And yea there was a lot of drinking with my level of intelligence. And then drinking became a convenient way to not think at all. I'm 3 years sober from alcohol now, but it has been a rocky road to get here.
Failing is normal. It's only when we don't learn from our failures and we don't adapt and re-attempt is when it's a true failure. I've failed at job interviews, failed in relationships, failed at work, failed in fitness and personal goals. But guess what, my life is not an Instagram feed. And yes, I lived most of my life trying to live up to expectations of others. I wasted so much time not doing the things I wanted to do because I needed validation from people I thought were my good friends.
I still play video games. Just got new Zelda. But I also work for video game industry. I look at it as staying relevant, research. Plus I want to dive into Unreal and Unity at some point. Right now I'm more into learning the niche techniques of Houdini.
The big question I ask myself is: when I fail, do I just relax and make it easier for myself? Or do I step back, re-asses, train for, and try it again? At the end of the day, all the shit in my life is made by someone who came up with an idea. There hasn't been a single idea out there that was executed without failure.
We're FailArmy. We love fails. Ask us anything!
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Hi guys - this is Cal & Chris from FailArmy. People from all over the world send us their fail videos and we show them on YouTube, Facebook and a lot of other places. We just launched a new mobile app which you can get in the app store and google play store. We'd love you to let us know what you think of it.
We're here to answer any questions you guys have about the app, the YouTube channel, fail videos, what Chris ate for breakfast, and whatever else you want to chat about.
Proof: https://twitter.com/RealFailArmy/status/636211626111168512
Edit: Hey guys, thanks for all the questions. We're gonna take a break but will probably hop on later to answer some more questions. Download the app if you can, or check out our Cell Phone/Selfie fails on youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qL0QROnL-JU
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Where were you at 27-28, I feel like a failure.
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Where were you at 27-28, I feel like a failure.
27 feel like I’m failing at life
Im not sure if this will make me feel any better, but I must voice my frustrations out. I am a 27 year old man, who has failed completely at life. I have no savings, no job, my credit is bad and I still live with my parents. All my life I have never been a lazy guy, I have maintained a job for the majority of my life. Sometimes I have worked 2 and 3 jobs. The problem is they were always dead end jobs and I never had the ability to move up before I left them. I went to college at 19 and dropped out at 20 because I had no guidance and no idea what I wanted to do with my life. From there I just worked. Eventually I went into survival mode and wasn't thinking about getting some type of degree or skill and bettering myself and before I knew it BOOM I was almost 27.
The only accomplishments I feel that I have made is buying my own car and going on vacation out of the country. But even that's not a big flex, because my car is broken down and I have no money to fix it. Currently I have no idea what I'm doing with my life, all I know is that I'm terribly behind all my friends and peers and I have no idea what direction to take or even what to do as of now. My self confidence has vanished. For now I have been applying jobs but not only do they all pay so little, I can’t even find one. I have been applying for ANY job. I have been unemployed for 2 months. I feel like a burden, a hopeless burden. I have never felt like this in my life. I have been foolish. I'm starting to get upset and reflect on my whole life and things I wish I had and did. I feel like if I had a father figure in my life I would have had more guidance and counsel. I just don't know how to properly convey my thoughts in text. I had a opportunity but royally messed it up.
Has anyone ever been in my shoes and saw the light at the end of the tunnel? I can terribly use some advice and encouragement right now if you don't mind. What should I do? It feels like I’m going to be stuck at my moms house forever.
I want to hear bad and good stories.
EDIT: I never expected that this post would get so much traction. I will take time to read every story. Thank you.
Top Comment: About to be 27. Have failed in all areas of life. No friends, relationships, career. Working a dead end security job, bought a car off Craigslist, living with parents, and 8k in savings. I wake up everyday and don’t even feel like a person. I’m too embarrassed to even progress in any way... It’s weird , one sec I’m 21 and feel like I have all the time in the world, next minute I’m 27 with the same problems. I hope you find some momentum to get out of this headspace, good luck to you.